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Sunday's big disasters

by Sarah on January 18, 2012

They say things always come in threes, and it was cer­tainly true on Sunday.

Mak­ing din­ner turned out to be a dou­ble dis­as­ter (John always cooks on Sun­days). Roast beef, has­sle­back pota­toes, car­rots, gravy and pureed Brus­sels sprouts with butter.

Only… some idiot (John) some­how man­aged to get the kitchen timer in the food proces­sor and promptly destroyed both of them, as well as mak­ing the sprouts Dif­fer­ently Edible.

There are just two of his mon­u­men­tal screw ups.

And, just before this, he and I had been out for a drive and we’d come across a pigeon in the road, injured, barely con­scious and com­pletely unable to fly.

So he got out of the car, sug­gested I might want to look at some­thing more pleas­ant, gen­tly picked it up and with a quick twist, he broke its neck. Nei­ther of us is par­tic­u­larly sen­ti­men­tal about ani­mals, but we don’t like to see them suffer.

Trou­ble is… either he’s stronger than he realises, or they sim­ply don’t make dinosaurs like they used to because… its head came clean off in his hand.

I am SO glad I was look­ing else­where AND had my eyes firmly shut

So what's the point of all this?

Well, there are three points (which is rather neat, because they’re obvi­ously com­ing in threes, as well):

First, it just goes to show we don’t always get it right. I bet YOU couldn’t screw up with a food proces­sor, a kitchen timer and a pigeon quite as badly as John did.

See, from the emails I get, peo­ple like to put me and John one some kind of pedestal, as if we live per­fect, fault­less lives.

We don’t. We’re as human as you are, and I bet we make more mis­takes and screw up more often and more pro­foundly than you do (this is really how Be Care­ful came about — we’ve made all the mis­takes, so you don’t have to)

But the dif­fer­ence is, we know this and we accept it, so…

Sec­ondly, it’s a les­son in laugh­ing at your­self. Things often don’t go accord­ing to plan, and you can either piss, moan and fret about them, or you can have a laugh at your own stu­pid­ity and have some fun.

So if your beloved doesn’t quite get it quite right or you cum when you’re not sup­posed to, just shrug it off and have a laugh about it (bet­ter yet… when you feel you’re about to cum, just think of John pulling off the pigeon’s head, and the moment will pass, I’m sure).

Which leads me to thirdly… just have a go at things!

If you can let go of the fear of fail­ing, then you’ll have a lot more fun in all areas of your life, not just male chastity.

First time John and I tried a chastity device (the CB 3000) it was hope­less. Since then we’ve been through sev­eral devices, a full belt and now we’re on a Lori 2C, which is about per­fect for what we want right now.

First time we played with a strapon, we couldn’t do a thing, because John got tan­gled up in the har­ness, and we just cracked up laughing.

Big deal. Try, try and try again… and now it’s per­haps my favourite toy.

Sure, they’re not for every­one… but they’re an awful lot of fun (not least the plea­sure of see­ing how frus­trat­ing it is for your man when he’s SO close, yet SO far from hav­ing what he wants so badly).

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Strapons and sweaty straining

by Sarah on January 15, 2012

I’ve been asked about the toy store I’ve added the blog yes­ter­day, about why it’s so gen­eral, and, specif­i­cally, why there’s a def­i­nite absence of chastity devices.

As I did say in my email, it’s just quick dip of my toe in the water and I need to put some time into mak­ing it more aligned with chastity, and with tease and denial.

But to answer the spe­cific ques­tion, about devices, I need to think deeply about sell­ing any­thing like that, because there are devices and there are devices. In other words, some of them are sim­ply rub­bish and won’t give buy­ers the expe­ri­ence they are hop­ing for (I know this from per­sonal experience).

So for the time being, I’m going to leave devices in the hands of the peo­ple who make them to order. This is prob­a­bly short term, and if I can find some off-the-shelf devices which offer real value for money, then I have no objec­tion to sell­ing them (John is in the mid­dle of writ­ing a review of one, even as I write).

Other toys and play­things are much less prob­lem­at­i­cal, and I’ll fin­ish up by answer­ing the ques­tion I’ve had dozens of times in the past few months: what hap­pened to your strap on?

Well, it’s had a lot of use, lol.

Some read­ers have asked me why John would want me to fuck him with a strapon, which sur­prised me… because I thought it was obvi­ous the strapon wasn’t for him at all.

Well, let me be clear: he isn’t the one who’s gets to have it used on him. He’s the one wear­ing it.

You see, most men love to please a woman with a vibra­tor, or watch her please her­self with anything.

And using a strapon to please her when he’s locked and in denial is like pleas­ing her with her favourite toy, only on steroids.

Because he is fuck­ing her, all bar actu­ally being inside her — he expe­ri­ences the whole thing up close and per­sonal, so to speak, and has her body hot and sweaty strain­ing against him.

And the frus­tra­tion he feels?

Deli­cious!

The ones we have are very much like this:

http://www.malechastityblog.com/my-favourite-strapon

http://www.malechastityblog.com/my-favourite-harness (the D-rings make it really easy to adjust, even when you’re both going at it like the clappers).

Seri­ously, it’s worth hav­ing a go with this, because you have no IDEA what you’re both miss­ing (and that’s a promise).

And remem­ber and there’s a 15% dis­count on these today — just use the dis­count code LOCKMESARAH at the checkout.

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January 11, 2012

I don’t know the orig­i­nal source of the image below, so I apol­o­gise in advance to the owner, but it’s doing the rounds and attri­bu­tion seems impos­si­ble. But it was sim­ply too funny to pass up. Here it is: There’s also a seri­ous point buried in here, as you might guess, know­ing me as you do (and […]

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Sarah... you rock! (his words, not mine)

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I had a won­der­ful email yes­ter­day. I mean, truly. It was prob­a­bly the nicest and most heart­warm­ing email I’ve ever had from any­one since I began the blog. I won’t include it all here, because it was quite long, and I want to give it a bet­ter treat­ment when I get more time, as it’s got […]

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Orgasm denial as a permanent way of life

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For orgasm denial to be a per­ma­nent way of life, your man has to be more than will­ing. In fact, to make it work as a real­is­tic lifestyle choice, I sus­pect he’s got to be eager. Let me explain why I say this. There’s no doubt orgasm denial is a fun­da­men­tal part of male chastity. For […]

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When she should refuse to play the male chastity game with you

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In response to my ques­tion a few days ago, I got a huge num­ber of answers… but this one really did stand out. Why? Because it prob­a­bly feels to E. that she’s the only woman in the world this is hap­pen­ing to… but I know for a fact this is far, far more com­mon than she […]

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The Big Announcement...

October 20, 2011

My Big Announce­ment is delayed until tomor­row. Because John and I were out of town yes­ter­day and I haven’t had time to get done what I needed to. So, tomor­row… And instead, then, let’s answer the sim­ple ques­tion raised by this wist­ful email: “If only i could find the right woman to lock me up […]

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Too one-sided?

October 16, 2011

Avery long and heart­felt mes­sage from a reader today. i have a lady that i love very much and have loved for 13 years i intro­duced the chastity tube i bought the cb6k for longer then a one day usage. when we make love i try and tell her her that she comes first and […]

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