A bit of a hot topic, this: enforced male chastity.
The basic premise is there are men out there who are forced to wear a chastity belt against their will. People – usually men – make this claim on forums and on blogs and it seems there’s a group of nodding-dogs out there who actually believe them.
And round and round the enforced male chastity fantasy goes… where it might stop, nobody knows.
Yes, there are undoubtedly men out there who are happier than others about the fact they are wearing a chastity belt; yes, there are undoubtedly women out there who have threatened, promised or cajoled all manner of different consequences if the belt it removed, from divorce to never playing the male chastity lifestyle again to…. God alone knows what.
The fact is…
The whole Notion of Enforced Male Chastity is Pure Fantasy.
Yes, enforced male chastity is a hot fantasy (which is perhaps why it’s so common), but a fantasy it is. Male chastity is as much of a choice as marriage itself, and even less legally binding since divorce requires the consent of a judge whereas breaking male chastity is as simple as removing the belt (don’t tell me… you’re in some kind of high-tech belt modern science and engineering is totally unable to remove, right?).
Now, if you dare to question this fantasy of enforced male chastity, all sorts of people crawl out of the woodwork claiming it’s real, it happens and they dream up an impressive arsenal of semantic tomfoolery to try and prove their point.
But the one thing that’s always sadly missing…?
Evidence of Enforced Male Chastity!
Actual examples of men who are locked up in chastity belts against their will. Evidence of enforced male chastity.
And why is that evidence of enforced male chastity missing?
Oh… could it be, perhaps, that, certainly in a modern Western society… truly enforced male chastity doesn’t actually exist?
Now, let’s be clear on one thing: absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, and we can’t certainly can’t prove there isn’t at least one man somewhere in the world who’s is locked up in a chastity belt against his will. We can’t disprove enforced male chastity exists.
After all, if a deranged father can keep his daughter locked up in a basement for 20 years and father his own grandchildren by her without being caught, then I suppose anything’s possible.
But here are a few reasons why the notion of enforced male chastity is bullshit:
- If the man didn’t want to wear the belt, he could simply cut it off with a hacksaw, bolt-cutters or other tools. Failing that, he could go to an engineering shop or even call the fire-service. Enforced male chastity is physically impossible.
- Since most men are physically stronger than most women, there’s a good chance If his lady is holding the key he could physically force her to hand over the key. And those men who claim they are occasionally let out to “play” could simply use force to prevent her from locking it back on again unless he were physically restrained. Enforced male chastity is physically impossible.
- The man could simply walk out of the house and go to the police, or a hotel or a friend’s and then have the belt removed in any one of a dozen different ways. Surely those men who are posting on Internet forums bemoaning their awful predicament and reporting what would be an unlawful violation of their rights would instead be, say, asking people to call the police or crying out for genuine help instead of engaging in some kind of circle-jerk with their fellow fantasists? Enforced male chastity is legally impossible.
I’m, sure you can think of other simple ways for a man to get out of this “enforced male chastity” thing.
The truth is, enforced male chastity is actually unenforceable both physically and legally.
Those who like to pretend enforced male chastity is real like to slide into arguments about women’s threats and how that constitutes “force”.
Nope. Enforced male chastity is a choice.
- If a woman tells you she’ll leave you if you don’t wear a chastity belt, then that’s a choice you have to make. So it’s not enforced male chastity.
- If a woman tells you she’ll divorce you and stop you from seeing your kids, then that’s a choice you have to make (a moment’s thought shows how silly this is: since a judge actually decides these things, the man would do well to get evidence of her threats and then present this at the divorce hearings). So it’s not enforced male chastity.
- If a woman tells you the only kind of sex life she wants with you is one where you are in enforced male chastity then that’s a choice you have to make. So it’s not enforced male chastity.
In all these cases, enforced male chastity is a choice. Perhaps it’s not an easy choice, but it’s still a choice.
And the curious thing about people is we tend to choose the least painful course of immediate action even if it’s not the least painful in the long term. So, for example, a man might choose to remain in a chastity belt with his wife because the pain of leaving her and starting over is greater than the pain of wearing the belt. Which means enforced male chastity is a choice.
We all make these choices, and we generally won’t switch the choice until the pain of the thing we don’t like but can endure… becomes unendurable.
Looking at it another way, the mechanisms we know would have to be in place for genuine enforced male chastity are necessarily powerful and complex (like perhaps building a subterranean addition to your home to keep the poor fellow in, or exercising some kind of Jedi Mind-Control over him to stop him simply removing the belt or seeking assistance).
But the mechanisms required to explain enforced male chastity in terms of consent are simple and well understood: plain, ordinary consent. Not enforced male chastity.
Which, I wonder, do you think is the most likely explanation? Experience shows a good rule of thumb is to look for the simple, most likely causes first… and male chastity being a choice rather than some complex conspiracy of enforced male chastity replicated hundreds of times around the world certainly passes that test.
If enforced male chastity were real, we’d occasionally see cases of it cropping up on the news when the man eventually escaped.
But we don’t see this, do we?
And why don’t we see enforced male chastity?
Because enforced male chastity isn’t happening.
And why isn’t enforced male chastity happening?
Because enforced male chastity is a fantasy, just like Father Christmas, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy.
Now, why do the fantasists get so worked up about this when you expose it?
I don’t know because I’m not one of them, but I suspect it’s because they’re like any other group of ideologues in that they have their irrational beliefs about how the world works and they hold them for purely emotional reasons. This is perhaps why it’s impossible to argue them out of their position with logic – because their position on enforced male chastity is emotional and you can’t beat emotion with logic easily (if at all).
Ultimately they fall back on the (again emotional) argument of “why are you arguing about enforced male chastity?”, meaning “why are you being mean and spoiling my fantasy of enforced male chastity?”.
Well, as I’ve said before one of the reasons for starting this chastity blog was to provide a source of information which is perhaps a little more rational and cerebral than the illiterate wank-fodder so many people like to post.
Nothing intrinsically wrong in their posting it, and I fully support their right to freedom of speech (a shame they so often don’t reciprocate)
But I also know many women seeking information about male chastity, usually after their husbands or lovers have brought the subject up, are frightened and even repelled by the extreme and fanciful enforced male chastity and submission stories out there.
And I hope to play my part in adding a bit of balance to the discussion.
Ultimately, this is why wrote my male chastity guide. Not because my way is the right way for anyone but me, not because I think everyone should be doing it the way I do it whether it’s right for them or not.
And one thing you won’t find in it is nonsense about enforced male chastity.