Long Term Chastity Problems

by Sarah on March 6, 2013

Long term chastity problems tend to fall into types:

  1. Physical
  2. Psychological
  3. Relationship

Physical long term chastity problems


The physical problems are easy to deal with because they mostly consist of the man feeling constantly horny and struggling to come to grips with the reality of chastity compared to the fantasy he’s carefully built up, often over several decades.

And don’t underestimate how tough this can be – even Thumper is straining the walls of his cage at the moment and he’s got another 18 months or so to go before he gets release (a couple of posts here and here worth reading, and the latter also busts the myth that chastity stops men looking at porn – it’s entirely the opposite, as you can see).

Some men have physical problems with the devices themselves (and about one in a gazillion have problems with their prostate but this seems to be very, very rare).

Psychological long term chastity problems

These are less obvious because you simply can’t see what’s going on in someone else’s head and can only guess from their behaviour what they’re thinking.

But, again contrary to popular belief and the crap put about by some of the more cereberally challenged people on certain forums, there’s no reason for a man to undergo some kind of profound psychological change just because he’s playing the chastity game with his wife.

Remember this is always consensual and you’re simply not going to get the same kind of changes you might expect if he were, say, actually locked in dungeon or something (and the whole idea of “chastity training” against his will is just plain stupid).

Relationship long term chastity problems

If the emails I get are anything to go by the biggest challenge couples playing the male chastity game face is actually playing the same game. I get a lot of (frankly whining) emails from men who tell me their wives have locked them and are now “ignoring” them.

Well, I have two things to say to that.

First I am the wrong person to be having this conversation with. You need to be talking to your wife about that, not me.

And secondly the reason this problem has come about at all is an initial lack of communication.

You may have said “I want you to lock me and deny my orgasms for as long as you like”, but what you meant was “… and I want lots of tease and denial from you as well”.

She can’t read your mind. This is your fantasy, your game.

And if she isn’t playing it the way you want her to and expected she would do, then the chances are excellent it’s because YOU haven’t communicated this to her properly.

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