I’ll come clean: I’m not a Royalist.
The thought of having a privileged bloodline riding on the backs of everyone else is abhorrent to me.
It’s backward and mediaeval and is something we really ought to have left behind by now, like slavery, burning witches and alchemy.
But I was heartened to see on the news today that Kate Middleton won’t be promising to obey that jug-eared parasite William when she claims her meal ticket next week.
That, too, is something belonging in the Dark Ages.
Interestingly, it’s apropos to my being more or less told recently that my controlling John’s orgasms means we must be in a “femdom” relationship.
I thought I’d done this to death, but obviously not.
I wonder what makes it so hard for people to understand that male chastity and my “control” of John begins and ends with his orgasm. That’s it.
There are no “other ways”. End of story. I don’t even control his sexuality, in the sense he’s free to initiate intimacy between us any time he likes.
Fact is, you CAN live a fun and fulfilling male chastity lifestyle without having to get involved in all the femdom stuff. I have no quarrel with anyone who wants to live that way since it’s their life and I quite rightly don’t get a vote.
But, please, don’t try and tell me what I’m thinking because of how you perceive my actions. That’s rude and ignorant.
For the record: my take on male chastity is purely vanilla.
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Sarah,
I certainly believe you are right that a woman should not subjucate herself to her husband by vowing to “obey” him. But like many things the actual meaning of that part of the vow meant a completely different thing back then. If you will allow that hundreds of years ago it was the man’s role to earn the money and make decisions for the household, in this place the term “obey” referred to the wife allowing the husband’s decision to have authority in the house. However, before the wife was to vow to “obey” the husband he had to prove himself worthy of such an honour. A drunk, abusive, fool hearty man would not be “obeyed” as his decision could not be trusted. The term “obey” was not meant as must do whatever he says like the wife was a piece of property or a pet. Perhaps if more men were worthy of a woman’s vow then it wouldn’t be the issue it is today.
So… perhaps you could explain to me, then, how back in Arthurian times the punishment for adultery for men was… a slap on the back and knowing looks from their friends; but for a woman, her man had the right to burn her alive at the stake?
Much of this nonsense comes from the Bible and the fuckwitted strictures of a bunch of goat-herding misogynists. More mediaeval and backward nonsense.
Sarah,
I guess I would explain it that the men were running the show and Jesus’ message that all are equal in the eyes of God hadn’t fully (and still hasn’t fully) been materialized yet. I think you are throwing out the baby with the bath water here.
If you can show objective, independently verifiable evidence for any god, then I’ll listen to it.
Otherwise it’s just made up stories believed by credulous adults.
Sarah,
This is hardly the forum for a discussion on the existence of God. I don’t believe you are interested in the existence of God and I’m not trying to change your mind. I would refer you to the work of Antony Flew for more on that. I only wanted to present you some food for thought on what the vow “obey” means and a different interpretation of it.
Sara, Agree with your insight. If you asked B if we were in a male led Marriage, she would say yes. That being said. If you asked her about our sex life she would say it is female led. I would agree with her. About 2 months after we started strict chastity, the power in our sexual relationship switched to her in a big way and is still growing. I noticed how she has grown in ownership of my orgasms. B has always been a beautiful, confident woman but has really blossemed in all areas of her life. She has says that it has unlocked an” inner BITCH” she did not realize she had and embraces that side of her.I am the recipient of that wonderful control. When she travels ,knowing I am locked and unable to orgasm, for the 2 weeks she is gone, every 2 months, helps in keeping her focused and confident dealing with clients half way around the world. One of the benefits of chastity we did not see coming (no pun intended). The chastity lifestyle does help enable her in dealing with the business world. In our personal relationship, she has gone from not wanting to see me suffer to pushing my locking and T&D for 365 days at a stretch with no chance of orgasm. B loves the look of the Lori’s 2B on me plus the security it provides. Orgasm denial is a powerful aspect of our relationship and we are so thankful to have found it. Thanks to Sara in help guiding us down that path.
Yours being kept by B, Richard.
I’m with You on this, Sarah. While I do adore FemDom, I can put on my vanilla hat and see how much distortion of cultural values over the years have resulted in expressions of surprise like whether Kate Middleton will “obey” or not. It’s only in the last 30 years or so that entrenched patriarchy has been under attack by advances made by Women in society. I’m not naïve to think there’ll ever be a Matriarchy (even though it stirs my FemDom gland!), an orthodox society based upon gender-neutrality surely must be for the better.
I think I missed the bit, Andrew, where I needed your permission or approval to discuss anything I want to on my own blog.
Perhaps you could point me to it?
In any case, can you answer my other point: how back in Arthurian times the punishment for adultery for men was… a slap on the back and knowing looks from their friends; but for a woman, her man had the right to burn her alive at the stake?
Sarah,
Perhaps you could point me to where I stated you needed my permission or approval to discuss anything you want on YOUR blog.
I simply tried to offer you an alternative view point on the phrase “obey” and how it is applied. Instead of either explaining where perhaps I am wrong or even offering a gee I never thought of it that way you may have a point, I got I need to prove that God exists before you will consider my viewpoint. On top of that you framed the debate that you already dismiss off hand 2000 years of argument and debate from theological, moralist, physical, and cosmological discussions and that I am simply credulous for even entertaining the idea. Forgive me for not wanting to engage you, but don’t suggest that I was the one trying to tell you what you can or cannot post on your own blog.
Also, please forgive me for even suggesting that there may even be an alternative to your viewpoint. I’m sure your future postings will simply QED.
Without evidence your viewpoint is without value since it’s just made up.
There is exactly the same amount of evidence for fucking leprechauns as there is for (any) god.
So, unless you can give evidence for (any) god, there is no point in talking about them.
Moreover, I have already shown you where you were wrong (in the way women have been treated as second-class citizens and still are in many parts of the world. And typically these places are theocracies ruled by backward misogynists who think women should do as they’re told).
And finally “but don’t suggest that I was the one trying to tell you what you can or cannot post on your own blog.”
The irony, it burns.
Maybe Kate is just going to “obey” in a very mediaeval way by saying “yes” to female chastity
Sarah
I am very intrigued by the idea of never orgasming again, and instead, enjoying my parner’s orgasms.
But isn’t permanent denial just a fantasy? Is it practical? Is it medically unhealthy? Do you know anyone who has gone years without orgasm?
I love the idea of never being allowed to come again but without castration, I suspect it’s more a fantasy than a feasible reality.
It’s possible, and to the best of my knowledge it isn’t physically harmful. But I’m not a doctor, so you make your own decisions.