An often overlooked benefit of male chastity and a chastity lifestyle is… when you eventually allow your man to orgasm (assuming you’re not engaging in permanent orgasm denial).
You’ve only got to read some of the esteemed Mr Allen’s accounts to realise that; and, let’s face it, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to work out that if a man has been waiting to orgasm for even just a week or two, and you’ve kept his interest alive with some gentle or even downright cruel teasing, then his eventual release is going to be loud, physically spectacular and, frankly copious.
And I, as a woman, love to make a man come. To me it’s the ultimate expression of what I mentioned recently in reply to a comment – the power of my femininity to drive a man to the point where he goes weak at the knees and can no longer control himself.
Now, I’m sure someone’s going to crawl out of the woodwork and tell me this is female dominance rather than just a vanilla-ish chastity lifestyle, but it really isn’t, at least not to me and since this is all very subjective, my opinion is the only one carrying any weight so far as this area of my own life is concerned.
To me, male chastity is very much a two-way street. Hence I suspect the chances of John’s ever having to suffer permanent orgasm denial are slim, but that’s not to say he won’t be waiting for a year or more at some point.
Hell, it’s worth threatening (?) him with this on occasion just to see his reaction. And mine 
. Sometimes, like now for instance, I’m sorely tempted to push him for as long as he’ll go, just to see his limits. I mean, while he’s not genuinely pissed off with things, why not?
But that deliciously cruel vision of male chastity aside (I get terribly wicked thoughts like this around this time of the month, right at about the same time my sex-drive goes into the stratosphere and permanent orgasm denial seems like a splendid idea, and the chastity lifestyle the best thing since sliced bread) permit me to suggest something even more fun than just letting your man orgasm.
Chastity Honeymoons!
I’ve been having these with John every three or four months or so. And I call them “honeymoons” because that’s exactly what they’re like. For those few days, John is no longer bound by our “rules” of male chastity and gets a free pass.
And, as I said at the top of this post, his reaction is nothing short of sensational. John is 45 but in exceptionally good shape. He looks maybe 10 years younger with his clothes on, and with them off he’d pass for a lean and fit 25 from the neck down. So regardless of anything else, he has a high sex drive already, chastity lifestyle or no.
Which means when we have our “honeymoons” he’s insatiable. It’s like being in bed with a teenager with an unstoppable and irrepressible erection and sexual appetite.
In short, it’s just like being on my honeymoon with him again.
And I get this 3 or 4 times a year. And sometimes we’ll go the whole hog and actually go away to a hotel for a weekend, just to add some spice to it (I pity the people in the adjacent rooms. No joke: we do get some funny looks. After all, after several months without coming, John is somewhat unrestrained and uninhibited, especially as I tend to make the first orgasm as slow and torturous as I can for him. Mmmm.… imagine that after a year of orgasm denial. Oh my… I’m instantly wet just writing that).
See, the chastity lifestyle in general and male chastity in particular are not just about orgasm denial.
On the contrary, to my way of thinking, male chastity is as much about managing the process of what goes on between the periods of denial as it is about the denial itself (by analogy… think about a fence. A fence comprises not only the wire, but the posts supporting the wire, too).
Golly. I’m horny now.
Who’da thunk the chastity lifestyle would magnify, enhance, improve and grow one’s sex life so much?
Sigh… I do love this life, you know. I have one complaint about it… no matter how long it proves to be for me, it’ll be too short!
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Sarah, do you have a ‘like minded’ sister in the States? Bless you for sharing all of your thoughts and experiences. John… you truly are one of the lucky guys on this planet!
Thanks for sharing!
Grey, not that I’m aware of. But seek, and ye shall find
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As for John being lucky… ask him again when he’s been locked up for seven months (if the bloody belt ever arrives and we can get it to fit comfortably, etc.).
Sarah.
Well, first and foremost I’m not a domme or mistress of any kind. I’m merely a loving wife with a loving husband whose playing a mutually enjoyable kinky game at her husband’s request and with both our consent. And none of this – as in nothing at all – spills over into any other area of our marriage.
It’s taken us a long time to get where we are, and John is still on his Honour for a substantial amount of time because of the problems we’ve had finding a device suitable for long-term wear.
It’s interesting you see this as you do, and I’m flattered you think me so skilled. But really, I can’t take any credit because it’s all just us — John and me — having fun and doing what comes naturally to us. It’s a bit like a man who isn’t afraid to do something isn’t brave when he does it; the brave man is afraid and does it anyway. It’s also possible, perhaps, that you’re over-analysing.
At the moment, I’m a hell-vixen. Some time in the next seven to ten days, I’ll be a fluffy bunnykins and want the closeness of making love rather than the maniacal laughter of the thought of not letting him come for 200 years. John is perhaps banking on my need and desire to let him orgasm is greater than my desire to keep him in denial. He’s probably right, because he usually is.
Still, one thing I do know is it’s not a good idea for me to underestimate John’s strength of will and character. And another thing I know is we do have a lot of fun.
Sarah.
This is a very interesting take you have on chastity that I’ve been reading over the last several weeks. I’m liking where you are going with this. Most women write about using chastity for masturbation control and orgasm denial and that is about the end of their concept. Except, they state some bogus reason like their husband cheated on them, in which case they actually need a lawyer not a chastity belt or they state some compulsion their husband has with masturbation. Which, could be somewhat more accurate but, still very one dimensional. What you are describing seems to much more.
Ok, let me ramble. Right now you say that you enjoy having John denied for 2-4 months in his current device and then you let him out for honeymoons. You also state that you enjoy teasing him and actually view chastity as a form of tease. You also wrote that if you wanted you would keep him in the new belt 7-months and take him out every night and masturbate him to the edge of orgasm before you had him go back into his belt and if you felt like it you could do it for an entire year. Now, you write that you enjoy taking him out for honeymoons and teasing him in a slow and torturous manner before you let him come wildly. And, you have also written before that you enjoy letting him out to just fuck your brains out and come.
What kind of Uber-Domme are you? No self respecting Mistress would play so loosely with the chastity rules. This may all seem incongruous, but it actually isn’t. What you seem to be practicing with John is much more than just some Uber-Domme chastity and orgasm denial routine. You have actually taken it to the next level and have made it much more multi-facetted. You are asking John to let you control every aspect of his sexual experience, from complete denial to tease and all the way to orgasm.
I like the idea that chastity play is just one aspect of tease and denial…and orgasm. Hey, we just invented a new kink. T&D&O. What you are asking John to do, is to let you control all aspects of his sexual life. Women do this all of the time. They tease their partner and deny, for a time, their orgasm and then at some point they decide to make them come. The only difference is that you are using a chastity belt for better control over the game and it sounds like you are an expert Masturbaterix! Who can fault you for having better control and being good at what you do.
I think I’m getting your concept of vanilla chastity. It isn’t really a lot different than tease and denial practiced by women everyday. You have just taken it to a different level. With the chastity belt, you can have better control over how long you can keep him in the tease state and keep him denied. As you know, teasing is both deliciously frustrating and maddening all at once. John is going to find out that wearing a full chastity belt for you is going to be much more intensely frustrating than anything you have wanted him to do before. I think you are going to enjoy this as well, because you love to tease so much. This is the part of this I think you are going to find that makes you want to deny him for longer periods of time just to enjoy him this way and see how far you can take him.
Back on track, I see how you also want to decide when he gets out and teased by you and how often. That is just as much a part of tease and denial as wearing the chastity belt, which is just one aspect. I think John is going to enjoy knowing that you are capable at any time of taking him out and teasing him to the edge of coming over and over and you will have no problem putting him back in his belt.
Lastly, I understand that you also want to control for John when he does come and if he ever gets to come. It isn’t just about tease and denial of orgasms. It is about experiencing every aspect of John’s sexual experience with him and that may include his orgasms. Further, I get the idea that you may want him to get a break from this form of play and you may want him to just screw you silly.
But, in the end, I guess that even his breaks are in some way part of the tease and denial and orgasm game. This idea is much more than just chastity play. The chastity belt seems like just one of your devices along with tease and denial which are separate from chastity. I think John is getting caught in a web that is a lot bigger and more complicated than what I first imagined you had in mind.
With, what sounds like your experienced prowess in feminine control, I think this is going to be very hot and sexy for John. I know that you are going to enjoy it from just some of the things that you write about that turns you on. By the way, you sound like you are going to end up being more strict about this then you let on. Also, I’m getting the idea that you really enjoy teasing John and it sounds like you are well practiced at this. So, I think you are really going to enjoy how far the full chastity belt is going to let you push John’s limits in this area. Denial takes on a more extreme sense after you have been expertly teased and then you find yourself back in a full metal chastity belt, unable to even touch yourself.
I’ve got to go, but I just want to leave you with this. Sarah, I know that you can’t exactly understand what you are going to make John feel with your new Tollyboy belt. But, when you wear a chastity cage of any make, you feel the sensation of being horny right there where you can grab it. In a full chastity belt it is different. You feel just as horny (or more), but it doesn’t seem to be in the same place, You can’t grab it and touch it. It is just there between your legs, almost like the frustration is just inside you. And, you can’t get at it at all. You can’t touch or tug at it. It is just there, under the front shield. You can’t change it or modulate how this horny frustration feels because it is also in a tube under the front shield. The extreme frustration that a full chastity belt creates is the sensation of being horny and not being able to do one… single… thing to change your state of arousal. John will just have to relent to the fact that until you decide that you are going to let him out, he isn’t going to have any control over any of this anymore.
From reading you so far, I think you are going to have a lot of fun with this! I think you are going to be beyond good at it! And, If you are going to write a guide about all of this I think that you are going to end up choosing a year for John’s first trial.
I hope you understand that the paragraph about you breaking the Uber-Domme rules was to make the point that what you are doing doesn’t have much to do with you being a Uber-Domme or Mistress. It was written to make the point that you are doing something that is more than the typical Domme-shallow-concept.
Maybe, I am over analyzing, but hey, that never stopped you. Also, maybe it is just this time of the month that I’m picking up on your hell-vixen attitude vibe and extrapolating it into what John may have to look forward to once he really does lose control.
And, I know that he can always go and remove it if he really wants, but it will be a bit different when he is locked in the Tolly. For example, if someone is in a CBX000 (not John) and they are at work or away from home, they can easily break out with items found in most desk drawers. Even Lori’s can be clipped with small dikes.
But, the Tolly is not going to make it this easy when John is away from home and you. John is going to at least have to come home and do it in the garage and this doesn’t sound like the John you describe. The barrier to the exit is way more involved and is going to more than likely have to involve you.
And, yes, you guys are going to have a lot of fun. Sometimes, you more than John.
No, that’s not John’s way. He’d cut it off only if he asked me to unlock him and I refused; and he wouldn’t ask unless it was for a good reason – like illness, injury or something like that. He wouldn’t ask just because he wanted to come. He’s too stubborn, lol (he says “proud”).
We both work from home, too, so he’s always got me around to remind him what he’s missing.
And now, to bed.
Sarah.
“We both work from home, too, so he’s always got me around to remind him what he’s missing.” Wow. You are going to have so much fun with him. I’m actually starting to feel a little sorry for him now.
I shouldn’t worry. He’s getting what he asked for. Not everyone can say that about life, can they?
Sarah.