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Male Chastity, Female Supremacy And Why I'd Be An Amazing Domme

by Sarah on May 21, 2010

I’d make a superb Domme if I was into female supremacy and not just male chastity.

This isn’t an idle boast, and since Joe’s com­ment the other day, I’ve given it a lot of thought and chewed it over with John.

Why?

Well, not because I have any inten­tion or desire to incor­po­rate it into my life and rela­tion­ship with John, so you frisky subs out there might as well just get your hands out of your pants before you start dribbling.

And there are two over­whelm­ing rea­sons for my not want­ing to pur­sue a female-led D&S rela­tion­ship with John:

  • First, as I’ve said before, I find sub­mis­sive men unat­trac­tive. This isn’t to say I dis­like them as indi­vid­u­als. What it means is I wouldn’t con­sider them as suit­able sex­ual or life part­ners. Slice and dice this any way you want, but it’s just as much a per­sonal pref­er­ence as men who like blondes with big tits and women who like fat wallets.
  • Sec­ondly, John sim­ply isn’t sub­mis­sive. He might like orgasm denial and the dynam­ics of male chastity, but female supremacy is an idea he finds hilar­i­ous. I mean, come on… women are “supe­rior” only in what they’re best at; and men are “supe­rior” in what they are best at. To hold them both up and claim one is wholly and intrin­si­cally “supe­rior” to the other is plainly silly, and only plainly silly peo­ple really believe it.

But none of this means I wouldn’t make a superb Domme for some­one.

It’d just have to be some­one I wasn’t hav­ing any kind of sex­ual rela­tion­ship with. So that imme­di­ately, from where I’m look­ing at it, means as far as I’m con­cerned, he’d be in per­ma­nent orgasm denial as well as per­ma­nent male chastity.

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Just to back up a bit: I’m some­thing of a per­fec­tion­ist. This isn’t to say I claim the ulti­mate objec­tive truth about female supremacy or any­thing else; rather, it means I’d have my own idea or model of what it meant to be a Domme, and then I’d do what­ever was nec­es­sary to ensure any­one play­ing the game with me met my stan­dards exactly, with no room for dis­cus­sion, com­pro­mise or flexibility.

This does not con­tra­dict what I’ve said pre­vi­ously about flex­i­bil­ity, because I’m not talk­ing about being in a rela­tion­ship with a sub male. He would be in my pres­ence only to obey and I would have scant regard for his feel­ings or desires.

My rules, and he doesn’t have to play if he doesn’t want to.

So, my mean­der­ing thoughts down this path were I’d have to be a pro­fes­sional Domme, since I have no inter­est in hav­ing a sub­mis­sive man in my life or engag­ing in female supremacy for plea­sure. I don’t want “serv­ing” and when I want sex­ual plea­sure, I have a real man, John, to please me, his male chastity notwithstanding.

My typ­i­cal client, then, would have to be a par­tic­u­lar kind of man. His vision of see­ing a Domme would sim­ply have to be he has no right or expec­ta­tion of receiv­ing any par­tic­u­lar treat­ment, good or bad.

The only thing he would be sure of is there would be no chance what­so­ever of his orgasm (with one or two excep­tions, as I’ll describe in a moment). I might engage in tease and denial, but then again I might not. Male chastity would be a given, and female supremacy an unde­ni­able and incon­tro­vert­ible fact within our microcosm.

He’d also have to be afflu­ent or at least com­mit­ted to pay­ing for qual­ity. See, I’ve looked at local (and not so local) Dommes and they’re all the same: you pay by the hour. Now, John, as a mar­ket­ing whizz, saw the flaw in this imme­di­ately. If you can give peo­ple what they desire, what they have that insane crav­ing for, they’ll pay you any­thing you ask.

So instead of hour-long ses­sions, I’d host entire week­ends. My clients would pay £5,000 for a week­end of the most strictly enforced iron-discipline they could imag­ine, and then some.

I’d qual­ify them before­hand, and any­one not will­ing to accept my terms, I’d sim­ply turn away. My terms are sim­ple: uncom­pro­mis­ing male chastity, utter female supremacy, and com­plete obe­di­ence. That’s it.

The only pos­si­ble excep­tion to their orgasm denial might be if I hired a local whore, or per­haps a rent boy to give them an orgasm against their will. I mean, if they are going to get release, I’d want them to have it in a way that makes them as self-loathing as pos­si­ble, yes?

They can stop at any time they like by using the safe-word, but once it’s used that’s it. They leave imme­di­ately and there’s no refund. Now, you might be read­ing this and think­ing, “fuck, I’d not pay that much!” or “I’d never be able to put up with that”, but that just means you’d not be in my tar­get mar­ket. You wouldn’t embrace the depth of female supremacy I’d demand.

Any­way, where were we? Ah yes… the weekend.

If you’ve seen the old Other World King­dom, you’ll per­haps know one com­mon com­plaint from guests was it was too easy. The men wanted harsh treat­ment, and didn’t get it.

Remem­ber, I’m going way beyond just male chastity here.

So their first night would be spent kneel­ing, locked in a pos­ture bar with their hands behind their backs. They’d be in my bed­room and they would be treated to an exhi­bi­tion of how I fuck a real man. John, of course. This is where I might tease and deny them, too. Would I let John come? I don’t know. It might be fun to enforce his male chastity, and let him sam­ple the ben­e­fits of female supremacy, too.

Some­thing else I might do, for espe­cially dis­cern­ing men whose wives are in on the secret, so to speak, is arrange for them to watch their wives being fucked all night by a hunky male escort, kneel­ing in a pos­ture bar, as I said before. Just musing.

Pun­ish­ment?

Oh yes. I’d promise – nay, guar­an­tee them a can­ing the likes of which they never dared dream of. There’s no point in play­ing at this. I’d have them restrained, gagged and thrashed like fuck until they were gen­uinely weep­ing and beg­ging for me to stop.

But over­rid­ing all of this would be the psy­cho­log­i­cal aspect. And here’s what really would make me an excep­tional Domme, and eas­ily worth that £5,000 for a week­end of exquis­ite suf­fer­ing: my imag­i­na­tion. This is what makes a man sexy to me; this is what makes me sexy to men.

Because, bluntly, I’d fuck with their heads, non stop.

Never mind male chastity, never mind female supremacy, they would leave my cas­tle after their week­end com­pletely psy­cho­log­i­cally bro­ken to slav­ery, bro­ken to the cane. See, in the true style of good busi­ness, they wouldn’t be just get­ting a week­end. I would deliver more than they paid for. It would never stop.

They wouldn’t be able to get me out of their heads.

Per­haps I’d throw in a bespoke chastity belt with the fee, or have it as an optional extra, with the agree­ment being once it fits and once they’re accli­ma­tised to it, the key is mine. I would be their key­holder (or per­haps their wives would be… so many options, no?).

But this would be male chastity and female supremacy because the under­stand­ing would be that as soon as it becomes pos­si­ble, per­ma­nent male orgasm becomes a way of life for them.

Again, this wouldn’t suit every­one, perhaps.

But it would suit enough. And, frankly, once I had them before me, I’d twist their subby lit­tle minds so they would be beg­ging me to cut their balls off and put them in a jar just so they can’t ever orgasm and lose this mad and insane crav­ing for release.

They’d come to me know­ing they would leave bro­ken, enslaved and owned men. They’d pay me for it, and pay me hand­somely. Male chastity would become their reli­gion, female supremacy their scrip­ture, and I their fuck­ing Goddess.

They’d go back to the pathetic ruins of their lives des­per­ately look­ing for­ward to the next time they could afford to come and spend another week­end in Hell with me.

I would destroy them, and they would thank me for it.

Of course, none of this is real and will never happen.

Because I don’t want it to. It’s that sim­ple. I just don’t want to be a Domme.

You might just want to be thank­ful of that.

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Todd May 21, 2010 at 5:19 pm

Dear Ms. Sarah:

OMG. As you commanded, I did not have my hands down my pants. But I am afraid to admit I’ve dribbled greatly…

Thank you Mistress, may I have another.

Todd

Sarah May 21, 2010 at 5:21 pm

Of course, if you have £5,000 to invest in the most terrifyingly exquisite weekend of your life.

Robert May 21, 2010 at 5:56 pm

Thank you for you last blog entries You have provided interesting answer to my questions.

By the way, I am not a sub — nor am I a male dom. In other words the power plays, either sub or dom, are not in my repertoire. I like the teasing though: a woman teasing me, enjoying her orgasms while she, gloating, enjoys denying me release. I also like being cuckolded, but again I don’t experience it as a sub, because that is not what I am (a sub). I enjoy the cuckold play because it pushes the teasing to its absolute maximum: the woman gets the sex and I don’t, save in a limited way (I am asked to practice cuninglingus or penetration but without cumming).

Does that make me into a sub. No, because it is also what I want. Iu don’t go for this habit of calling a woman “Mistress”.

So — since I am not a sub — I know where you are coming from on most of this. I say “most” because you have preferred to keep quiet (and it is your right to be reserved on this) on how you achieve your orgasms. So, I won’t ask any questions on that: I will respect your desire for privacy.

Thanks again for you blog.

Sarah May 21, 2010 at 5:59 pm

Thank you, Robert.

“I say ‘most’ because you have pre­ferred to keep quiet (and it is your right to be reserved on this) on how you achieve your orgasms. So, I won’t ask any ques­tions on that: I will respect your desire for privacy.”

This is, unlike you and John… coming ;-)

Todd May 21, 2010 at 6:06 pm

Dear Ms. Sarah:

You need to be careful. Some of us sub’s have more money than we know what to do with (after charitable contributions of course).

In fact, I sooooo much need a self loathing orgasm right now.

I’m already in chastity belt, my wife would love to have my balls in a jar on her bed stand but doesn’t have the desire to make the effort.

Sorry, this is starting to sound pervy. I will crawl back under my rock.

Todd

PS: If you took the above blog entry as an outline and filled in the blanks with your superb writing skills I would pay to read it…oops gotta go clean up a little.

Michael_X May 21, 2010 at 8:18 pm

Entertaining, I too like getting into peoples heads and doing a little editing, in their own best interests of course.

I think you’ll find that market forces will keep you out of the sex worker business. I can think of several pro dommes with the skills and superbly equipped dungeons who would do it for a lot less. But then having been around in the UK scene a while we have an interesting circle of friends, acquaintances and contacts.

Hmmm. Maybe I could set up as a broker. People could contact me with their fantasy and I could outsource the work to highly experienced and skilled freelance professionals whilst taking a cut of the action.

No, I think I’ll skip that idea.

If you want to make money you need an idea that scales. There is after all only one of you and only one weekend a week. What you need to do is build an army of keyholders trained in the Sarah MindF–k methodology and charge for their services. Or keep your book highly secret and build a cult around it with a pyramidal hierarchy and the money flowing up to the top, yourself.

Have fun,

Michael

Sarah May 21, 2010 at 8:21 pm

Lol, the marketing side of things is a cinch. Price is not really the issue. If people wanted ME they’d pay whatever I asked to have ME.

John does this for a living. No worries there.

susan's pet May 22, 2010 at 12:38 am

Reading between the lines, and also the lines themselves, my suggestion is to go professional and enjoy it. As an alternative, you could write a book with this theme. I am sure that your imagination could provide fodder for much male orgasm.

Sarah May 22, 2010 at 10:08 am

Writing a book is a definite possibility; writing short stories is actually in progress ;-)

P (aka Ms Starr) May 22, 2010 at 2:17 am

Sarah, You really sound like you could do this as a lifestyle and enjoy it. I know this is suppose to be a fantasy that you are talking about but it sounds like you believe the female supremacy thing. It sounds like it could work but to live this as a lifestyle would be very hard to do with everyday life getting in the way and all. I read Ingrid Bellemares book and you sound like you are on the same page with her thoughts but she really lives this as a lifestyle and not just on the weekends. I enjoyed the blog and your uptake on this subject as I would love to have this lifestyle with my hubby but I believe it is just a sexy novel and not really achievable. Take care P

Sarah May 22, 2010 at 10:02 am

No, I wouldn’t enjoy the lifestyle, Ms Starr, because it’s ruin my relationship with John (I presume that’s what you mean). The moment he started putting up with that kind of treatment, I’d cease to find him attractive as a man.

I could do it with clients and other men, I suppose. But the distance between the idea and the reality is huge and (equipment to buy, dungeon to build, etc.) and I’m not really that keen on the idea, truth be told. Mind you, for £5,000 a time, I might consider it, lol.

But never, ever as a lifestyle thing with John. It’d be strictly business only.

Shadowlady May 23, 2010 at 10:26 am

Ahem, being a domme and a female supremacist are not the same at all.
I do see myself as a domme and I am in a d/s relationship However I find the idea of female supremacy repugnant to say the least (any form of supremacy to be honest).
Within d/s and BDSM there are many many grey areas between vanilla and supremacy.

Sarah May 23, 2010 at 10:35 am

You are of course correct, Shadowlady.

I wasn’t so much equating the two as assuming an extreme, just for the purposes of exposition.

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