I’d make a superb Domme if I was into female supremacy and not just male chastity.
This isn’t an idle boast, and since Joe’s comment the other day, I’ve given it a lot of thought and chewed it over with John.
Why?
Well, not because I have any intention or desire to incorporate it into my life and relationship with John, so you frisky subs out there might as well just get your hands out of your pants before you start dribbling.
And there are two overwhelming reasons for my not wanting to pursue a female-led D&S relationship with John:
- First, as I’ve said before, I find submissive men unattractive. This isn’t to say I dislike them as individuals. What it means is I wouldn’t consider them as suitable sexual or life partners. Slice and dice this any way you want, but it’s just as much a personal preference as men who like blondes with big tits and women who like fat wallets.
- Secondly, John simply isn’t submissive. He might like orgasm denial and the dynamics of male chastity, but female supremacy is an idea he finds hilarious. I mean, come on… women are “superior” only in what they’re best at; and men are “superior” in what they are best at. To hold them both up and claim one is wholly and intrinsically “superior” to the other is plainly silly, and only plainly silly people really believe it.
But none of this means I wouldn’t make a superb Domme for someone.
It’d just have to be someone I wasn’t having any kind of sexual relationship with. So that immediately, from where I’m looking at it, means as far as I’m concerned, he’d be in permanent orgasm denial as well as permanent male chastity.
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Just to back up a bit: I’m something of a perfectionist. This isn’t to say I claim the ultimate objective truth about female supremacy or anything else; rather, it means I’d have my own idea or model of what it meant to be a Domme, and then I’d do whatever was necessary to ensure anyone playing the game with me met my standards exactly, with no room for discussion, compromise or flexibility.
This does not contradict what I’ve said previously about flexibility, because I’m not talking about being in a relationship with a sub male. He would be in my presence only to obey and I would have scant regard for his feelings or desires.
My rules, and he doesn’t have to play if he doesn’t want to.
So, my meandering thoughts down this path were I’d have to be a professional Domme, since I have no interest in having a submissive man in my life or engaging in female supremacy for pleasure. I don’t want “serving” and when I want sexual pleasure, I have a real man, John, to please me, his male chastity notwithstanding.
My typical client, then, would have to be a particular kind of man. His vision of seeing a Domme would simply have to be he has no right or expectation of receiving any particular treatment, good or bad.
The only thing he would be sure of is there would be no chance whatsoever of his orgasm (with one or two exceptions, as I’ll describe in a moment). I might engage in tease and denial, but then again I might not. Male chastity would be a given, and female supremacy an undeniable and incontrovertible fact within our microcosm.
He’d also have to be affluent or at least committed to paying for quality. See, I’ve looked at local (and not so local) Dommes and they’re all the same: you pay by the hour. Now, John, as a marketing whizz, saw the flaw in this immediately. If you can give people what they desire, what they have that insane craving for, they’ll pay you anything you ask.
So instead of hour-long sessions, I’d host entire weekends. My clients would pay £5,000 for a weekend of the most strictly enforced iron-discipline they could imagine, and then some.
I’d qualify them beforehand, and anyone not willing to accept my terms, I’d simply turn away. My terms are simple: uncompromising male chastity, utter female supremacy, and complete obedience. That’s it.
The only possible exception to their orgasm denial might be if I hired a local whore, or perhaps a rent boy to give them an orgasm against their will. I mean, if they are going to get release, I’d want them to have it in a way that makes them as self-loathing as possible, yes?
They can stop at any time they like by using the safe-word, but once it’s used that’s it. They leave immediately and there’s no refund. Now, you might be reading this and thinking, “fuck, I’d not pay that much!” or “I’d never be able to put up with that”, but that just means you’d not be in my target market. You wouldn’t embrace the depth of female supremacy I’d demand.
Anyway, where were we? Ah yes… the weekend.
If you’ve seen the old Other World Kingdom, you’ll perhaps know one common complaint from guests was it was too easy. The men wanted harsh treatment, and didn’t get it.
Remember, I’m going way beyond just male chastity here.
So their first night would be spent kneeling, locked in a posture bar with their hands behind their backs. They’d be in my bedroom and they would be treated to an exhibition of how I fuck a real man. John, of course. This is where I might tease and deny them, too. Would I let John come? I don’t know. It might be fun to enforce his male chastity, and let him sample the benefits of female supremacy, too.
Something else I might do, for especially discerning men whose wives are in on the secret, so to speak, is arrange for them to watch their wives being fucked all night by a hunky male escort, kneeling in a posture bar, as I said before. Just musing.
Punishment?
Oh yes. I’d promise – nay, guarantee them a caning the likes of which they never dared dream of. There’s no point in playing at this. I’d have them restrained, gagged and thrashed like fuck until they were genuinely weeping and begging for me to stop.
But overriding all of this would be the psychological aspect. And here’s what really would make me an exceptional Domme, and easily worth that £5,000 for a weekend of exquisite suffering: my imagination. This is what makes a man sexy to me; this is what makes me sexy to men.
Because, bluntly, I’d fuck with their heads, non stop.
Never mind male chastity, never mind female supremacy, they would leave my castle after their weekend completely psychologically broken to slavery, broken to the cane. See, in the true style of good business, they wouldn’t be just getting a weekend. I would deliver more than they paid for. It would never stop.
They wouldn’t be able to get me out of their heads.
Perhaps I’d throw in a bespoke chastity belt with the fee, or have it as an optional extra, with the agreement being once it fits and once they’re acclimatised to it, the key is mine. I would be their keyholder (or perhaps their wives would be… so many options, no?).
But this would be male chastity and female supremacy because the understanding would be that as soon as it becomes possible, permanent male orgasm becomes a way of life for them.
Again, this wouldn’t suit everyone, perhaps.
But it would suit enough. And, frankly, once I had them before me, I’d twist their subby little minds so they would be begging me to cut their balls off and put them in a jar just so they can’t ever orgasm and lose this mad and insane craving for release.
They’d come to me knowing they would leave broken, enslaved and owned men. They’d pay me for it, and pay me handsomely. Male chastity would become their religion, female supremacy their scripture, and I their fucking Goddess.
They’d go back to the pathetic ruins of their lives desperately looking forward to the next time they could afford to come and spend another weekend in Hell with me.
I would destroy them, and they would thank me for it.
Of course, none of this is real and will never happen.
Because I don’t want it to. It’s that simple. I just don’t want to be a Domme.
You might just want to be thankful of that.
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Dear Ms. Sarah:
OMG. As you commanded, I did not have my hands down my pants. But I am afraid to admit I’ve dribbled greatly…
Thank you Mistress, may I have another.
Todd
Of course, if you have £5,000 to invest in the most terrifyingly exquisite weekend of your life.
Thank you for you last blog entries You have provided interesting answer to my questions.
By the way, I am not a sub — nor am I a male dom. In other words the power plays, either sub or dom, are not in my repertoire. I like the teasing though: a woman teasing me, enjoying her orgasms while she, gloating, enjoys denying me release. I also like being cuckolded, but again I don’t experience it as a sub, because that is not what I am (a sub). I enjoy the cuckold play because it pushes the teasing to its absolute maximum: the woman gets the sex and I don’t, save in a limited way (I am asked to practice cuninglingus or penetration but without cumming).
Does that make me into a sub. No, because it is also what I want. Iu don’t go for this habit of calling a woman “Mistress”.
So — since I am not a sub — I know where you are coming from on most of this. I say “most” because you have preferred to keep quiet (and it is your right to be reserved on this) on how you achieve your orgasms. So, I won’t ask any questions on that: I will respect your desire for privacy.
Thanks again for you blog.
Thank you, Robert.
“I say ‘most’ because you have preferred to keep quiet (and it is your right to be reserved on this) on how you achieve your orgasms. So, I won’t ask any questions on that: I will respect your desire for privacy.”
This is, unlike you and John… coming
Dear Ms. Sarah:
You need to be careful. Some of us sub’s have more money than we know what to do with (after charitable contributions of course).
In fact, I sooooo much need a self loathing orgasm right now.
I’m already in chastity belt, my wife would love to have my balls in a jar on her bed stand but doesn’t have the desire to make the effort.
Sorry, this is starting to sound pervy. I will crawl back under my rock.
Todd
PS: If you took the above blog entry as an outline and filled in the blanks with your superb writing skills I would pay to read it…oops gotta go clean up a little.
Entertaining, I too like getting into peoples heads and doing a little editing, in their own best interests of course.
I think you’ll find that market forces will keep you out of the sex worker business. I can think of several pro dommes with the skills and superbly equipped dungeons who would do it for a lot less. But then having been around in the UK scene a while we have an interesting circle of friends, acquaintances and contacts.
Hmmm. Maybe I could set up as a broker. People could contact me with their fantasy and I could outsource the work to highly experienced and skilled freelance professionals whilst taking a cut of the action.
No, I think I’ll skip that idea.
If you want to make money you need an idea that scales. There is after all only one of you and only one weekend a week. What you need to do is build an army of keyholders trained in the Sarah MindF–k methodology and charge for their services. Or keep your book highly secret and build a cult around it with a pyramidal hierarchy and the money flowing up to the top, yourself.
Have fun,
Michael
Lol, the marketing side of things is a cinch. Price is not really the issue. If people wanted ME they’d pay whatever I asked to have ME.
John does this for a living. No worries there.
Reading between the lines, and also the lines themselves, my suggestion is to go professional and enjoy it. As an alternative, you could write a book with this theme. I am sure that your imagination could provide fodder for much male orgasm.
Writing a book is a definite possibility; writing short stories is actually in progress
Sarah, You really sound like you could do this as a lifestyle and enjoy it. I know this is suppose to be a fantasy that you are talking about but it sounds like you believe the female supremacy thing. It sounds like it could work but to live this as a lifestyle would be very hard to do with everyday life getting in the way and all. I read Ingrid Bellemares book and you sound like you are on the same page with her thoughts but she really lives this as a lifestyle and not just on the weekends. I enjoyed the blog and your uptake on this subject as I would love to have this lifestyle with my hubby but I believe it is just a sexy novel and not really achievable. Take care P
No, I wouldn’t enjoy the lifestyle, Ms Starr, because it’s ruin my relationship with John (I presume that’s what you mean). The moment he started putting up with that kind of treatment, I’d cease to find him attractive as a man.
I could do it with clients and other men, I suppose. But the distance between the idea and the reality is huge and (equipment to buy, dungeon to build, etc.) and I’m not really that keen on the idea, truth be told. Mind you, for £5,000 a time, I might consider it, lol.
But never, ever as a lifestyle thing with John. It’d be strictly business only.
Ahem, being a domme and a female supremacist are not the same at all.
I do see myself as a domme and I am in a d/s relationship However I find the idea of female supremacy repugnant to say the least (any form of supremacy to be honest).
Within d/s and BDSM there are many many grey areas between vanilla and supremacy.
You are of course correct, Shadowlady.
I wasn’t so much equating the two as assuming an extreme, just for the purposes of exposition.