What bet­ter topic for today than male chastity and liberty?

And while I remem­ber: I hope all my Amer­i­can read­ers and friends have a super Inde­pen­dence Day and, in par­tic­u­lar in these dark days remem­ber the 1^st and 2^nd Amend­ments (since the 2^nd is para­mount in ensur­ing the 1^st).

Human sex­u­al­ity fas­ci­nates me. If you can imag­ine an alien look­ing down at us as we carouse, cavort, cum and cuck­old, he (for want of a more appro­pri­ate pro­noun) would be utterly bemused, I sus­pect. Indeed, if we look at it our­selves objec­tively it’s all rather ridicu­lous – the grunt­ing, the groan­ing, the sweat­ing, the faces we pull, the things we say, the posi­tions we get our­selves into… and all in the name of what?

Well, we all know why we do it, but it’s prac­ti­cally impos­si­ble to explain. If you know it, you don’t need it explain­ing; if you don’t, expla­na­tion is use­less. The spe­cific and very eso­teric kink of male chastity is no dif­fer­ent, of course.

 And we can’t afford to under­es­ti­mate the sheer power of our sex­u­al­ity. It’s no coin­ci­dence that one of the fun­da­men­tal con­cepts in the reli­gions of the world is con­trol­ling our sex­u­al­ity, because that, in turn, makes it much eas­ier to con­trol us. It’s hard to force happy, con­tented peo­ple to do what you want them to do – and organ­ised reli­gion really is about control.

Gov­ern­ments are no dif­fer­ent, either. The state of Texas is cheer­fully mak­ing a total arse of itself in its bid to take the crown of Most Back­ward and Medi­ae­val State in the Union with its attempt to out­law sodomy (which includes oral sex), and to make same-sex mar­riage a crim­i­nal offence (at the same time it’s tak­ing a revi­sion­ist posi­tion on his­tory, and a stone-age view of sci­ence in its school text­books. Way to go, asshats).

To me it beg­gars belief that the state – and I mean any state – can have the temer­ity to assume it has the right to con­trol what its cit­i­zens do to and with their own bod­ies. This obvi­ously includes sex with con­sent­ing adults, but also includes drugs and, ulti­mately, the right to com­mit sui­cide with or with­out assis­tance. It also includes male chastity.

That’s a given, wouldn’t you say?

You’d think so, yes. But there are still those out there who think it’s “wrong”. Some think it’s just inhu­man and unnat­ural (it’s no more or less unnat­ural than con­doms, vinyl records or shoes); oth­ers think male chastity is actu­ally degrad­ing and demean­ing. On a forum recently a host of igno­rant big­ots sim­ply couldn’t get their heads around the idea it’s con­sen­sual and has noth­ing to do with not trust­ing your man to be faith­ful, pre­vent­ing mas­tur­ba­tion or being a “con­trol freak” (the thread was closed by an admin­is­tra­tor when I asked the Chief Bigot some dif­fi­cult questions).

Of course, a fairly secure belt or device will stop your man fuck­ing around and mas­tur­bat­ing, but this “pre­ven­tion” is put in place with his con­sent. It’s part of a game.

And, it’s a choice.

It’s always a choice

And male chastity being a choice means… ta-da… you have the right to choose it! It means you have the right to want it, with­out hav­ing to explain or “jus­tify” that want to any­one, and you have the right to ask for it.

Yes, the per­son you ask also has the right not to play the game with you, but that in turn means you then have the right to pur­sue your desires elsewhere.

And he or she can­not rea­son­ably stand in your way.

The moment you start let­ting other people’s opin­ions and feel­ings dic­tate your actions, you’ve given away your power. No one’s rights are being infringed when con­sent­ing adults per­form any act with each other.

No mat­ter how dis­gust­ing or per­verted it might seem to you, or how dan­ger­ous and dam­ag­ing it might seem to them, it’s none of your busi­ness. And by allow­ing their dis­ap­proval and dis­gust to influ­ence you into chang­ing your behav­iour, you give them power over you.

Para­dox­i­cally or per­haps iron­i­cally the best rela­tion­ships are those where you’re both inde­pen­dent. You’re together because you want to be together. And if the other one ran off with some­one else, you know you’d sur­vive and wouldn’t go chas­ing after them like so needy ado­les­cent. And you both know this about each other.

So, if you want male chastity… now would be a good day to take a hint and reclaim your inde­pen­dence… and ask for what you want.

You might not get it, that’s true.

 You might open a can of worms you really wish you hadn’t, because it’s always pos­si­ble they’ll crawl into your rela­tion­ship and eat it away from the inside. To them, male chastity might be a sign you’re weird, per­verted and not the man or woman they want to be with. It’s unlikely, but it is possible.

It’s always a risk – but life is ulti­mately fatal any­way. No mat­ter what you do in life, you can’t change the final out­come. All you can do is decide what you do between now and then.

If the risk of ask­ing for what you really want scares you, then per­haps it might help to con­sider the risk the 56 sign­ers of the Dec­la­ra­tion of Inde­pen­dence took when they put their names to paper.

For them the con­se­quence of not get­ting what they wanted would have been to swing by the neck; for you, the very worst is going to be a real­i­sa­tion your cur­rent part­ner is not going to play the male chastity game you so, so des­per­ately want to try.

You may be will­ing to give it up; and then, you may not be. That’s a choice only you can make.

And I promise you one thing: you won’t lie on your deathbed and groan, “I wish I’d spent less time being happy”.

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