After my last post, wax­ing lyri­cal about cru­elty, male chastity and your sweet, inno­cent and vir­ginal host’s ten­dency to evil, a cou­ple of things came up which are remark­ably interconnected.

Syn­chronic­ity?

Nah, just coin­ci­dence. The uni­verse is a big inter­est­ing place, but it really isn’t inter­ested in me. It’s not even hos­tile – just supremely indifferent.

Susan’s Pet com­mented (on a dif­fer­ent post to the “cru­elty” one):

“Is the last time your man allowed to orgasm truly the last? Would you feel bad if he really could not do it again because of exter­nal circumstances?”

And D. from Oz emailed me and said (among other things):

“ […] why do you think John likes it more when you’re cruel than when you are kind??”

Good ques­tions.

As I men­tioned in my last post, John has addressed this in this week’s newslet­ter, and I’m won­der­ing about adding another sec­tion to the free guide.

But in the mean­time, here’s my take on it, from a woman’s and keholder’s point of view.

I think for most men the plea­sure of male chastity and orgasm denial is two fold. This is per­haps a bit sim­plis­tic, but I think it’s broadly true from what I can gather hav­ing talked to some of them and cor­re­sponded with many more.

The first plea­sure is phys­i­cal. Whilst men love their orgasms, it’s also true they’re gen­er­ally too brief and not a plea­sure they can eas­ily savour. Left entirely to his own devices it’s hard for most men to take it slowly (hence the num­ber of emails I get from younger guys who tell me they’re too busy mas­tur­bat­ing to go out and find a real woman. True).

By lock­ing a man in male chastity a woman gives him the gift of what is in effect an orgasm that takes days, weeks, months and per­haps even longer to come to fruition.

For exam­ple, if I let John come at Christ­mas, then he’ll have been work­ing up to it for more than 7 months .

The sec­ond plea­sure is psy­cho­log­i­cal and is per­haps nec­es­sar­ily deeper, more com­plex and more dif­fi­cult for us women to under­stand – the man relin­quish­ing con­trol. Maybe so many men love this because soci­ety has con­di­tioned them to be tough, strong, con­fi­dent and always in con­trol of them­selves and the situation.

Now, to answer the questions.

If John couldn’t orgasm because of injury or dis­ease, then yes, I’d feel bad for him – because part of the plea­sure in hav­ing his orgasms con­trolled as part of male chastity is know­ing there’s a chance he’s going to get one at any time or at least some time in the future. If the pos­si­bil­ity is removed entirely, then so is the antic­i­pa­tion, and the antic­i­pa­tion is, to some, all.

And why does John like it the cru­eller I am?

That prob­a­bly has a com­plex answer, too, but one sim­ple part of it is in being cruel I am gen­er­ally either increas­ing the antic­i­pa­tion by promis­ing a longer period of denial, or upping the inten­sity by get­ting him closer and closer to the point of no-return.

Often it’s both of these together.

And then, of course, the cru­eller I am the less con­trol he has which deep­ens the plea­sure he gets from relin­quish­ing con­trol per se. Male chastity is one big bloody pos­i­tive feed­back loop…

I think this is what they call “win win”, isn’t it?

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