Happy Thanksgiving (and be thankful for male chastity)

by Sarah on November 26, 2010

Just a quickie today – we’re off for the weekend. John is doing some self-defence thing and I’ll be doing what we girls do best… SHOPPING!

And Himself will, of course, be beltless and unlocked for the duration. The next three nights will be fun, and I hope only there won’t be any “accidents” because the aim is for Christmas until his next release.

Then we’re going to have a free-for-all until the New Year, I think… because by then his new Lori should be with us and he’ll be knuckling down again to some serious long term denial.

A couple of weeks ago, someone asked:

Well the reason I asked the question was your latest blog uses the term orgasm denial, and it seemed to be making that point itself.  I’m not assuming it, but simply posing the question whether it is the orgasm denial or something else as well.  What is it for you and John?  Your latest blog seemed to imply it was just the orgasm denial.  If so, then would it not be possible to get the same effect if he were able to deny himself without your assistance?”

Which to me is missing the point.

YES, some men can control themselves and enjoy a better orgasm when they eventually get to come, but for most the perceived loss of control is part of the pleasure. In the same way as you can’t tickle yourself, and masturbation isn’t the same as good sex with another person, self-denial cuts out a huge part of the pleasure for the man.

Now, this doesn’t make the woman a domme or the man a sub because those things involve many other dynamics that simply don’t have to be present with male chastity and indeed aren’t present in many relationships where male chastity is the norm.

The argument “if it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck then it’s probably a duck” is a useful metaphor, but as all metaphors do it breaks down. It isn’t the reality which is what some people forget. For example you could make a robotic duck which was very convincing in appearance, but would in no way be an actual duck.

So if you’re looking for long-term male chastity but you’re scared it means more than it does, and it’s somehow necessarily more than just a hot, exciting game played between two consenting adults, you can relax.

It’s can be anything you want it to be – you and your partner make and agree the rules, and that’s all that really matters.

Just… Be Careful What You Wish For.

Oh, and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate it (and a happy long weekend to everyone else).

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