Male Chastity and Religion

by Sarah on July 2, 2010

I suppose by now nothing about male chastity should surprise me. But it does. And in particular, it’s when it comes to religion.

Now, I’ll tell you upfront I am not religious in the least. You may already have figured that out from things I’ve said in the past, but in case you haven’t you know now. So when it comes to readers asking me, in effect, “is doing X, Y and Z OK because of my religion?”, then I have to confess, I have no fucking idea and absolutely zero motivation to find out for you.

Like every child I was born atheist – and unlike most I never took on what I consider to be the irrational beliefs of any religion. So an atheist I remain (and for anyone who’s tempted to say “atheism is just another belief system”, you’re talking out of your arse. Atheism is non-belief in gods. It’s a “belief system” in the same way not collecting stamps is a hobby).

Religion has never played any part in my life and unless I see evidence to demonstrate some religion is actually true, then it’s never going to.

So, what does this have to do with male chastity?

Well, people keep asking me about it. That’s fine. But they then don’t like my answer, which is almost always something like “I don’t know anything about your religion and I’m not interested in learning about it, so you’ll have to figure it out for yourself”.

Apparently, at least according to a few people, this is “disrespectful” to their “beliefs”.

Hmm. Where to start with that! One minute we’re talking about male chastity, and the next, I’ve got a fucking zealot after me.

First, and to me most important, why should I respect your beliefs? Yes, I respect your right to have those beliefs no matter how silly they seem to me or how far distanced they are from the objective and measurable reality of the universe as we see it through the lens of science and reason.

But your beliefs themselves are nothing more than abstract ideas, parts of your model of how you think the universe works, and are no more deserving of respect than the electrons whizzing around inside the computer you’re using to read this very page.

If I am to respect your beliefs, where does it end? If you’re a racist, misogynist, paedophile or homophobe, should I respect those beliefs, too? Do I have to respect your belief that enforced male chastity is a reality, when it demonstrably is not?

If you tell me you believe the earth is flat, the moon is made of green cheese and you are Napoleon and have a pink unicorn perched on your shoulder that whispers to you in the night, should I respect those beliefs as well?

Or should I just think you’re as nutty as squirrel shit?

Secondly, I am not your fucking gopher. It’s your religion, so don’t be so damned lazy and expect me to interpret it for you. Speak to your priest, shaman, imam, rabbi, vicar or whatever about male chastity. I’m sure he or she will be thrilled – it might give them something to do for a change.

And if you think all the answers to life’s mysteries are to be found in some old book, then you go and read it. I don’t care and am not interested.

And finally, why do you believe what you believe? How do you know it’s true? Where’s your evidence?

You see, there’s no evidence, no proof, no reason to believe in any particular religion. There are over 30,000 different flavours of Christianity alone and some 16 different “official” version of the bible. Then let’s throw in the other two Abrahamic religions with all their different sects, branches and cliques and it soon starts to become faintly ridiculous (and we’ve not even started on the Jains, Buddhists, Hindus, Sikhs, and the Norse, Greek, Roman, and African religions).

Only one of them can be the “one true religion” and all the rest must be wrong. How do you know yours is the right one?

My point here is simply this: if you think male chastity might somehow be against your religion and by engaging in it you’re somehow offending some big invisible sky-fairy who’s going to send you to hell for eternity, then I really think your biggest problem is the religion itself not a bit of plastic or metal covering your genitals.

And really finally, no, I don’t “have a problem” with religion. As far as I’m concerned it’s irrelevant.

The “problem” I have is when people seek to dictate my behaviour because their religious beliefs tell them everyone has to do things their way.

And that includes sending me messages asking about male chastity and expecting me to give a fuck about your religion. Ask me about it and I’ll tell you what I think: you’re delusional and it’s up to you to see how it all fits together yourself.

You don’t have the right not to be offended.

If you’re religiously sensitive, then it’d perhaps be best if you don’t send me messages.

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