A reader writes:
“Sarah We have just started & we would like to know does the man have to wear a device or can he just be trusted? Thank you” ~ Jim
A very simple question with a surprisingly complex answer.
The “obvious” answer and the one you’ll get from the frothing mouths of the Chastity Taliban is a man ‘must’ be locked.
But, then, those folks weren’t exactly at the front of the queue when they were handing out smarts, were they?
The simple answer is it’s really up to you — because what you get out of your chastity will depend on what you put into it, and what you put into it is something you need to think about in terms of what you want.
Because for many men the whole male chastity and orgasm thing is underpinned by ‘enforcement’ in the form of a chastity device or belt. This enforcement is illusory because no device is 100% secure and many men can orgasm in any device if they put their mind to it. So it’s really just a deterrent, an added bit of spice and something to help the game along. Some men find something simple like a CB3000 to be perfectly sufficient; others prefer a full metal male chastity belt or a metal cage.
But, that said, for some men it’s absolutely necessary because it’s PART of the fantasy. No it’s not logical, but, then, that’s the whole thing about fantasies. If they made sense they probably wouldn’t be very interesting fantasies.
And even if it’s not part of the fantasy, some men find it impossible not to masturbate and need a little help for the ‘danger moments’.
Yet there are also men for whom being on their ‘honour’ is a perfectly acceptable way to play the chastity game. John was on his honour for a long time while we were looking for the right device, and even now there are periods when he’s not locked for one reason or another. These men tend to focus on the physical pleasure of tease and denial and the mpre general improvements to the relationship and tend not to be driven by the D&S thing.
Does a man in chastity necessarily cheat?
The Chastity Taliban froth ‘YES!’ to this, and claim all men lie.
But that perhaps says more about them than it does about the honest men whose integrity they besmirch.
Can John or any other man prove he doesn’t cheat while he’s on his honour?
No, of course not. But they don’t have to. Those making the claim they are cheats are the ones who have a claim to substantiate with evidence.
Oh… they don’t have any. What a surprise.
So, really, this is a question only you can answer for yourself: can you be trusted?
And do you even want to be trusted, or are you a man who craves to be locked just for the illusion of enforcement? Nothing wrong with this if you are, but answering the question honestly will help you and your partner make the right decision for you both.
I do cover this topic (and others) in a LOT more detail in my free guide.