Male Chastity Lifestyle - Keep This. Toss That

by Sarah on April 5, 2012

Wow… what a busy few weeks it’s been.

It hardly seems like five minutes ago it was New Year and John was enjoying his first orgasm in over a year (and wasn’t that all one amazingly hot experience to remember?); and now here we are, with Spring most certainly sprung, the nights drawing out, we’re moving house and this blog has gone bananas.

Not that I am complaining at all. As you’ll know if you’re in the Inner Circle, John has allowed me to take a sabbatical from our “normal” business and devote my time fully to all things male chastity.

That’s how I’ve had the time to write and release two brand new books: 69 Ways to Please a Woman Without Fucking Her and 69 Killer Tease and Denial Tortures. To say these have been popular is like saying your first orgasm after a year of strict tease and denial is “quite nice”, I’d imagine.

There’s also a third one on the way, a guide to cuckolding, something I know is a hot topic for many. But just to be clear: this isn’t something we do ourselves. It simply doesn’t interest us, especially considering the very real dangers. As I’ve said many times we’ve very much into a vanilla male chastity lifestyle.

But, that said…

… I realise many men and women are determined to go ahead regardless, so I’ve teamed up with someone who’s very experienced in this area and we’re writing this as a collaborative venture. It’s proving very interesting (and not a little exciting).

All that aside though, the one thing I really do wish people would get out of their heads is the idea life — anyone’s life — is one, long sexual encounter. It only seems that way. Yes, we probably do play more than most if for no other reason than I spend most of my days thinking and writing about male chastity, orgasm denial and all that stuff. But, you know, we’re busy people and John is now doing the work of two and more or less running the business singlehanded.

Newsflash: no matter how readily your Beloved takes to the male chastity lifestyle and all the fun and games it implies, I can guarantee she is not going to be spending her entire day thinking about playing exquisitely torturous sex games with you. If she’s like most women she’s thinking about shopping, cooking, her work, her next hair appointment, what she’s going to wear on the beach this Summer and… well, you get the picture. It might seem shallow and it might seem like I’m stereotyping, but, you know, that’s what most of us are thinking about most of the time.

Even in my case, where I’m thinking and writing about sex throughout my working day, even when I’m relating my ‘research’ my thoughts and feelings are not especially sexual in nature. Meaning, I’m describing a physical thing. I’m not especially emotionally connected to what I’m writing about.

The strapline of the whole male chastity lifestyle thing is “be careful what you wish for”. There’s an element of the risque and exciting in that, of course, but there’s also an implied common‐sense warning. And that is your fantasy might be unbearable.

But not because you’ve inadvertently made yourself a slave of some kind. Rather, it’s more likely you’re going to be disappointed. You’re probably going to be horny most of the time, but your wife or girlfriend is going to be sublimely uninterested in that for most of the time. Your expectations of non‐stop bunny‐fucking are going to be woefully inaccurate.

It’s not all doom and gloom, though. Because when you do get to play — and it is likely to happen more often when you’re locked, it’s true, for all the reasons I’ve given before — you’re going to enjoy it all a lot more.

And, as always, I stress there is no right and wrong way to do it. Have a play and see what works. Don’t be afraid to talk to her about what’s working and what’s not working.

Keep this, toss that, in other words.

Previous post:

Next post: