Male Chastity... The 20 Making the 80

by Sarah on February 3, 2011

I’ve been getting a lot of email recently about the male chastity blog, all pretty much asking the same thing — ‘we want more’.

More what exactly is another matter, because it seems to be more of pretty much everything — more posts, more newsletters, more books, more this more that, more the other… and what I really need is more time.

As any regular blogger will tell you, it takes up a lot of time. For instance, the Tease and Denial book I released last week took a couple of days and I enlisted John in doing most of the layout (he has a new Mac with a 27″ screen and I am officially Envious). On top of this we run a business completely unrelated to male chastity and, you know, have lives to lead.

And let’s face it…

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You see, the fact is, like everyone else on the planet, John and I spend most of our time doing the boring, mundane stuff. Like last night (or this morning, whichever way you want to look at it), John didn’t get to bed until 0330 because he was doing some urgent work for a client. Such is life, male chastity or no.

Now, the point I’m getting to here is that male chastity doesn’t take up a lot of time; meaning we’re not spending most of our lives in bed having sex or playing at tease and denial or whatever. Yes, we play often, usually a couple of times a week, barring late nights, early mornings and all the other things that have always put a damper on things, but life just goes on.

As Tom Allen pointed out: “Before Enlightenment… chop wood, carry water; after Enlightenment… chop wood, carry water”.

So while I hate to rain on your parade, I think it’s highly unlikely your own sexual exploits are going to expand to fill all your waking hours, either, no matter how eager you both are to play the male chastity game.

What's the point of male chastity then?

Good question.

Well, the fact it’s not something you spend a lot of time on doesn’t mean it doesn’t have effects wholly disproportionate to the effort and time you put into it. Meaning, male chastity is the gift that keeps on giving.

It’s basically the 80/20 rule at work — you get 80% of your pleasure from just 20% of the things you do for leisure, for instance (I love the 80/20 rule — John introduced me to it with Richard Koch’s seminal book, The 80/20 Principle). In the same way, male chastity takes a relatively little time to play at, but the effects are deep and wide ranging.

I think this is something you come to realise as you get more into it. My impression is most people just starting out have wholly unrealistic expectations of what’s going to happen just because they lock a piece of metal or plastic around their squidgy bits, give the key to their wife and then don’t orgasm for a while. As I’ve said before, boys, you’re going to spend a lot of time bored, ignored and horny and without the option of going for a crafty wank upstairs.

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I don’t think this is a problem, or at least it shouldn’t be, and if you can stick the course while thing settle into their own groove it all kind of comes together at the end, a bit like a Rolf Harris painting.

Anyway, I am doing more — I have loads of things I want to do, one of which is perhaps resurrect the newsletter in some form or other (but not the weekly marathon it used to be — too much commitment).

So, if you have any particular things you’d like to see, hear about or get hold of, leave a comment and let me know.

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